WHO WE ARE
Are you a “Real” Christian Man? Or a “Real” Christian Man wannabe? What do I mean? Well, are you tired of putting on a face or an act for the sake of other people’s opinions of what a “Christian Man” is supposed to be? Are you sick of people’s perceptions that Christian men are meek, mild, and weak? Do you routinely hide your feelings when you’re pissed off, mad, sad to the point of tears, or want to scream so loud windows would shatter? Yet you don’t because that’s not the way a “Christian” man is expected to behave? How about being bored of all the superficial “Christianese” spoken in your church?
If any of this sounds like you, you might just be a “Real” Christian Man. And if so, you’ve come to the right place! Welcome. We need you. “Real” Christian Man was created with you in mind.
I’m a Christian man. Eleven years ago, I accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior. It was the best decision of my life. Yet at the same time, it was kind of weird. After becoming saved I wasn’t sure how I was supposed to act or look or feel. Was I no longer allowed to get mad, or curse, drink, smoke, fight with my wife, yell at my kids, want materialistic things, listen to heavy metal music, go to rock concerts, etc, etc?
All I really saw in church was what appeared to be weak, soft spoken, wimpy kind of men. Frankly they seemed really bored with life. These are men who constantly said things like, “Praise the Lord brother”, “God is good…all the time”, “I’ll be praying for you”, blah blah blah. Really? You’re praying for me? Exactly what are you praying about? And praise the Lord? What if I don’t feel like it right now? How about my wife and I are at each other’s throats, we can barely pay our bills, my daughter is pregnant, and I’m depressed beyond belief. What do I do with all that? Well, I walk into church, put on my happy face and pretend….even though ten minutes ago in the car I had a major blowout with my wife and I screamed at my kids because they weren’t getting themselves ready fast enough to get to church. Screamed at them so badly that they cried all the way to church. But we all walk in, put on our good “Christian” family act and pretend the world is full of sunshine and rainbows. We stand there and worship while our children are in their Sunday school class still crying.
What does the “Real” Christian man do with all that? Where does the “Real” Christian man go to share the way he really feels inside? Where does he go when he’s dying inside, but can’t let anyone know? If you’re like me, you hold it in until all you become is an atomic bomb just waiting for the red button to be pushed. Yes, you can and absolutely should pray. But what if God seems to be silent? Then what? Then what the hell do you do? If you’re lucky enough to find them, like I did, you find other “Real” Christian men. Men that have gone to battle. Men that don’t cringe when you drop an F bomb in frustration. Men that have hit rock bottom and climbed back out. Men that have felt the fiery darts of our enemy. Men that have been divorced, suffered with alcohol or drug addiction, been to prison, lost a child or a wife. Men who know and understand that the church isn’t necessarily always a sanctuary; it’s a triage and we are the walking wounded.
If any of the above resonates with you, then welcome to “Real” Christian Man. Welcome to the brotherhood of the walking wounded. Here is the safe haven you’ve wanted so you can say exactly what you want to say, how you want to say it, and not be concerned about being judged. Collectively, we’ve heard just about everything. Try to shock us…I dare you! We are a pack of men who truly love the Lord with all our hearts, but understand we still walk around in these skin suits in a world that often hates us and exists to knock us down. We know we have an enemy whose only purpose is to destroy us and all we care about.
So write to us. Your stories will become a part of all of our stories. Your letters may become a lifeline for others who are experiencing the exact same thing as you are and don’t know where to turn or what to do. Our comments and responses will become the encouragement we need, the kick in the ass we need, the smack in the face we need, and the love we need to get through just one more day.
This is the place where we join hands as brothers and fight life’s battles…..together. As iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17